Walking into a networking event can be awkward. I’ve done it plenty of times, and let me tell you—it’s never my favorite part. If I can bring someone with me, great! But here’s the rule: don’t cling to them all night. You’re there to meet new people, not stay in your comfort zone.

When I go alone (which happens more than I’d like to admit), here’s my trick: I look for someone who seems as nervous as I feel. They’re usually just as relieved as I am when someone strikes up a conversation. Suddenly, the room feels less intimidating, and I’ve got a buddy to get the ball rolling.

Networking isn’t about impressing everyone in the room or handing out business cards like a door-to-door salesperson. It’s about making real connections—professional friendships that feel human. Let’s break down how to do that in a way that actually works.

Ditch “What Do You Do?” and Ask Better Questions

Let’s talk about opening lines. If you start with “What do you do?” you’re already losing the game. It’s boring, and it screams, “What can you do for me?” Instead, try this:

• “What lights you up these days?”

• “What’s been exciting in your life recently?”

See the difference? These questions get people talking about what they care about, not just their job title. And when people feel good talking to you, you’ve already made a memorable impression.

Bring a Friend, But Don’t Make Them Your Crutch

I get it—it’s easier to go to an event with someone you know. If you can, bring a buddy, but don’t stick together all night like you’re at prom. Use those first few minutes to get comfortable, then split up and meet new people.

If you’re flying solo, don’t panic. Look for someone standing off to the side, and start a conversation with them. Nervous people unite! You’ll make each other’s night easier, and you’ll both have someone to talk to right away.

Lead With Generosity

Here’s a secret: networking isn’t about you. It’s about what you can offer. Can you give feedback on someone’s script? Recommend a resource? Share your favorite dog trainer? When you focus on helping others, people remember you as someone who adds value.

Leading with generosity is one of the fastest ways to stand out. It shows you’re there to build real relationships, not just collect favors.

Keep Track of the Details

Ever had a great conversation, only to forget everything about it five minutes later? Yeah, me too. That’s why I always jot down quick notes on my phone.

Did they mention a new project? A recent trip? A shared love of tennis? Write it down. These little details are gold for follow-ups. When you mention something specific later, it shows you were paying attention and genuinely cared about the conversation.

Don’t Wait—Reach Out Early

Want to know how to network as an actor without waiting for casting calls? Start before the casting process even begins. Platforms like IMDb Pro and Crew United are amazing for finding projects in development.

If you see that a filmmaker just secured funding, send a message. “Congrats on getting your project funded! The concept sounds so exciting, and I’d love to support however I can.” This isn’t about pitching yourself for a role—it’s about building relationships before the competition even shows up.

Host Your Own Meetup

Why wait for someone else to throw an event? Hosting your own mixer, coffee chat, or even a casual group hang can put you in the driver’s seat.

You don’t need a big budget or a fancy venue. Invite a few actors and filmmakers to a local coffee shop, or organize a speed-networking session. When you’re the one bringing people together, you naturally become someone others want to connect with.

Show Up and Own It

Here’s the deal: you belong in the room. Walk in like you know it. Stand tall, smile, and let your personality shine. Are you funny? Be funny. Are you thoughtful? Ask great questions. Just show up as your authentic self.

And when it’s time to move on, read the room. If someone looks like they’re ready to wrap up, gracefully end the conversation. A well-timed exit leaves a better impression than overstaying your welcome.

Follow Up Like a Pro

Networking doesn’t stop when the event ends. A good follow-up can turn a quick chat into a lasting connection. Send a message referencing something specific from your conversation, like, “I loved hearing about your short film—can’t wait to see how it turns out!”

Want to stand out even more? Send a voice note or short video. It’s quick, personal, and shows effort. People love thoughtful follow-ups that feel authentic, not generic.

Be the Connector

If you really want to shine, connect people who might benefit from knowing each other. Did someone mention a trip to Barcelona? Introduce them to your foodie friend who knows all the best spots.

These small gestures show that you’re invested in building a community, not just your own career. And here’s the kicker—it often comes back to you in ways you never expect.

Networking That Actually Works

Forget the stiff, transactional version of networking. Real networking is about forming relationships that feel human. Ask better questions. Lead with generosity. Follow up with care.

The next time you walk into a room, take a deep breath, find someone to connect with, and start a real conversation. You’ve got everything you need to make it work—you just have to show up.

Ready to take your networking game to the next level? Imagine having a clear, personalized strategy to connect with the right people and open doors to more acting opportunities. Book a free discovery call and let’s figure out how to make that happen together!

Until next time, you stay your bold and beautiful self,
Anne